Gratitude with reactive need to gain in return.
It is a gift that is given with thanks without wanting more in return. The symbolic labeling of giving everything comes at a price, the cost, the need to take back, 'give and take'.
If you give from a place of love with no need for return and without the fear of loss, then in return you will loose the need to take in return.
Societies destructive effect on our ability to give, share voluntarily, has created a self reflective need to hold onto our basket so tightly and never let go in fear it will be taken away.
Learning to say no.
Everyday you are given moments large and small to choose to say yes 'I shall offer to give' and say no 'that doesn't resonate with me and I will not take that path, accept to put myself in that situation or position'. I create my own choices and they come from my heart center.
When fear, negative emotional and influences are allowed to lead us through these decision making processes, the joy of giving, sharing and the joy of heart based gratitude is removed if the action is reinforced with negative reaction.
'She only did that because she wanted something back in return', 'he is going out of his way to rub it in our faces' 'he is trying to prove he is better than us'.
This brings in the ego and how you choose to use a situation to gain egotistical applause and gratification to gain stature and social status.
This act of giving from the ego then reflects back with the negative gratitude, and until people learn to let go of this reinforced belief system that actions of kindness are symbols of greed, ego, self gain and the circle of distrust continues.
Core belief systems need to be changed and re balanced to become aligned with the non ego energy, the heart based act of giving and truly believing that others give for the act of pure giving without the 'need', but the joy of accepting gratitude.
Learn to let go of the action, allow it to happen as the flow in return from the act of heart based giving shall return with more than you can ever expect and you will experience pure gratitude from the returned space.
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